321: The “Good Girl” Lie That’s Keeping You Stuck (And How to Break Free) with Dr. Shefali

by neeta bhushan

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Hello, Brave Table fam! Oooof, today’s episode is pure medicine for your soul—and honestly, I’ve been dreaming of this sit-down with Dr. Shefali Tsabary for years. You’ve probably heard her on Oprah, or maybe you’ve devoured her best-selling books like A Radical Awakening or The Conscious Parent—but nothing beats what we’re unpacking today.

We went all the way in on what it means to awaken as a woman, especially if you’ve been playing the “good girl” for too long. We unpack why women—especially those from immigrant, Asian, or traditional backgrounds—feel stuck in roles that shrink them. We talked about breaking the cycle of perfection, what it really means to sit with pain, and how to be a present parent without losing yourself in the process.

So, if you’ve ever felt torn between being the “good girl” and living your wildest truth, or are in the middle of a reinvention season—this episode is calling your name. Pull up a seat, it’s time to get brave!

What you’ll get out of this episode… 

  • The “good girl” archetype is a lie.
  • Pain is not your enemy—it’s the portal to your most awakened self.
  • Conscious parenting isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence.
  • You don’t have to heal before becoming a parent—parenting is the journey of healing.
  • It’s okay if your awakening makes others uncomfortable. Keep rising.
  • Gentle parenting isn’t about coddling—it’s about connection.
  • Let go of legacy expectations (doctor, lawyer, engineer) and step into your soul’s truth.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – The lie of the “good girl” archetype 

06:30 – Breaking generational cycles with in-laws and elders

10:00 – How pain becomes the portal to awakening

14:30 – The trap of toxic positivity and how to reclaim your true self

17:00 – Conscious coaching & transforming your life with Dr. Shefali’s Institute

21:15 – Holding space as a mother while healing your inner child

27:00 – Gentle parenting vs conscious parenting—what’s the difference?

32:00 – How to raise emotionally resilient kids in the digital age

33:50 – What to do when you awaken but others around you don’t

36:00 – All about The Conscious Circle community

37:00 – Spill the Chai: Guilty pleasures, chai recipes, and brave confessions

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Connect with today’s guest, Dr Shefali Tsabary

IG / @doctorshefali

WEB / https://www.drshefali.com/

WEB / https://coaching.drshefali.com/ 

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Learn more about The Conscious Circle / https://www.theconsciousparent.com/consciouscircle 

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Dr. Neeta Bhushan is a 5x Award-Winning Author & world-renowned emotional health advocate & human connection expert. She’s written multiple best-selling books including her most recent book, That Sucked, Now What endorsed by Jay Shetty, Host of the Top 50 Mental Health Podcast The Brave Table, & CEO of Highest Self Institute, a coaching organization training coaches to become the highest versions of themselves. She’s been featured on Forbes, LA Weekly, ABC, NBC, CBS, Grazia, Ok! Magazine, Verve Magazine & Tatler. 

After realizing how trapped she felt running the million-dollar dental practice she built, Neeta embarked on a journey that led her across 45 countries as she researched blending the intersection of human behavior, ancient wisdom, Eastern philosophy, and therapeutic psychology. That knowledge, along with other life experiences overcoming multiple adversities, which include being orphaned at a young age, surviving an abusive marriage, and extensive loss, contributed to the powerful message of resilience & connection she shares in her work. Neeta is a mother of two young children, wellness junkie & lover of chai.

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